Recording audio streams with VLC

rem This batch file was written for use with 4NT
rem
rem It's specifically for recording the streams from the Philippine radio station MONSTER RX 93.1
rem    and more particularly The Morning Rush with Chico, Del and Gino every 6am to 10am every weekday

@echo off
setlocal
set outfile=%_year%-%@format[02,%_month]-%@format[02,%_day]-%@format[02,%_hour]-%@format[02,%_minute]-%@format[02,%_second]

start /separate "RX 93.1 Stream Recording" "c:\Program Files\VideoLAN\VLC\vlc.exe" --sout "#transcode{acodec=mp3,ab=128,channels=2,samplerate=44100}:std{access=file,mux=raw,dst=c:\temp\RX931_%outfile.mp3}" c:\Downloads\monsterrx.asx

:saguli
delay 1
if exist "c:\temp\RX931_%outfile.mp3" goto gogogo
goto :saguli

:gogogo
if %@filesize[ c:\temp\RX931_%outfile.mp3, b] GT 4096 goto gona
goto :saguli

:gona
start /separate "RX 93.1 Stream Listening" "c:\Program Files\VideoLAN\VLC\vlc.exe" c:\temp\RX931_%outfile.mp3
goto tapos

:tapos
endlocal

Kindle

I was very very happy when I finally received my Kindle Touch on January 1, 2012, courtesy of my wife's cousin who came home to the Philippines from Chicago right around Christmas Day.

I've spent a month and a half daydreaming of my new Kindle and it was very surreal when it eventually landed on my palms.

UNFORTUNATELY, after only a month of use, the screen died (well, half of it did) on me. :( :( :(

Amazon has since replaced it with a new KTouch (they refused to allow an upgrade to a KFire), but the replacement unit is yet to make its way to the country since my friend is not leaving California before March 18.

I hope this one doesn't die on me for a few years, or several even, to come! I also hope my Kindle 3, now 14 months old, gets to see several more years of gadget life.

Kindle

Yesterday, at home, I turned on my Kindle 3's Wifi to download the new book/s I've purchased (for free) but it wouldn't detect my Wifi router. :(

I tried to rescan to no avail. I thought I might have set the SSID broadcast to DISABLED on the router, so I manually configured my Kindle's wifi. No dice.

Today it connected just fine to my office router and to the popular mall's free wifi.

When I got home, it still wouldn't even detect my home wifi router.

The solution that worked was this: Reboot the router.

GPS

I'm excited to replace my Nuvi 255W! At first I was planning on getting a Nuvi 855W because it's one of the cheaper models that support preloaded routes. Then discovered that it's no longer listed in the current model list at garmin's website, so I looked for the cheapest one that's still listed there, and found out that a refurbished Nuvi 1450 is just a buck more expensive than a refurbished 855W! And it has a larger screen (though its battery holds up for only up to 3 hours, an hour less than my 255W) to boot!

But as the days went on and I kept searching and researching, I found out that Amazon is selling brand new 1450 units for $133, about 33 or 34 bucks more than refurbished ones. I decided to buy peace of mind for 33 bucks. :D

Here's some information about the 1400 series that's going to prove useful (most esp. the 1-sec track recording feature):

from http://www.malfreemaps.com/viewtopic.php?p=76250&sid=f186f7f255982c9a0d2d32bf765a6a36#p76250 :

I just got my Nuvi 1460 and I have in my internal memory (in the /.System folder) my Thailand map as gmapprom.img, MSM-MySinG v3.09 as gmapprom1.img and Masmap Tiles and MFM v091019 as gmapsupp.img in two separate SD cards.

Then I created a folder /map and put in it Australia.img and Korea.img. When I located the /map folder in the SD card, it did not work. Then I tried the internal memory and put the /map folder in the .System folder and then the /Garmin folder as a sub-folder but both did not work either. Finally, I moved the /map folder to the root directory of the internal memory and the Australian and Korean maps were available for selection. This is a really neat feature.

The v2.10 firmware solved the incompatibility issue with cgpsMapper compiled maps.

The only things I find annoying (so far) are:

1. The touch screen is very insensitive compared to my Nuvi 200 and it will be a challenge trying to make changes while driving.

2. The only British TTS voice is Daniel. I prefer a female voice and there is no non-TTS British voice. I don't like Daniel murdering Jalan Tanjung Tokong as Jalan Tanjung Terkerng. Tanjung Bungah became Tanjung Bang Gah. Strangely Jalan Oldham was pronounced as Jalan O_L_D_H_A_M and Jalan Sg Kelian became Jalan S_G Kelian. Mappers will have to make the appropriate changes to the naming of roads.

3. The Autozoom is annoying because it does not return to the set zoom level as my Nuvi 200 does. I was happy with the autozoom in the Nuvi 200 but the N1460 always returns to its preset 300m.

4. I found that getting into PC Mode is mode difficult and complex than the Nuvi 2xx. In the Nuvi 2xx, you just plug the USB cable in while the unit is off and it will automatically switch on and go into PC Mode. With the Nuvi 1460, you have to switch on without the cable and let it boot up until it reaches the Where To? screen and the simulator must be off before you plug in the USB cable, then only will it get into PC Mode. However, the difference is if you plug in like you do for the Nuvi 2xx, the USB connection is recognised as external power so you can avoid using the internal battery and navigate with it connected to your PC.

1-sec tracking is available but cannot be activated through the Where Am I? screen (Easter Egg method). You can however activate it by touching the speedometer for about 10 seconds (remember the v3.4 firmware of the Nuvi 2xx?) then a Diagnostic Page appears. Touch the Diagnostic Logging option and you will get the Logging Control screen with the Start Recoding and Start Playback buttons. The logs are stored in the /debug folder in the internal memory.

Satellite lock is very fast. Accuracy improves to 4 metres (so far experienced) with WAAS selected. It was 6 metres when Normal was selected.

One more thing, I can see custom POIs displayed (without labels) in the Navigation map (if you like that). Strange thing is Favorites POIs are seen without the label (the Nuvi 200 shows both the icon and label).

Will report more findings later.

Windows

Another weird windows xp behavior: for some reason, I couldn't access the Windows Clipboard -- no copy, cut, paste -- on my WinXP desktop at the office. I thought mysql-front was the culprit.

I found some suggestions on the net, so I tried to run the clipboard viewer (clipbrd.exe). It also couldn't access the system clipboard!

Then I ran into this, and I'd like to duplicate his post here for posterity (and this will also serve as a backup of his post):

Many users often complain to their system adminstrator that their clipboard is not working and they are unable to do copy/paste operations and it is the task of sys admins to break their head to find out the reason. Dear sysadmin...no more you need to do that. I came across a good tool which can help you to solve this problem.

This problem generally occurs when a process locks clipboard for reading and writting and didn't release it properly. Clipboard will function normally after killing that process. The tool (GetOpenClipboardWindow) will help you to identify the culprit process. Download this tool now and share it with users.

From my experience, I can say that mostly mstsc.exe is the process which blocks the clipboard. The reason I assume here is simple because it dealts with clipboard of connected computer and your computer.

Happy Learning..,
Sitaram Pamarthi

-- from http://sys-talk.blogspot.com/2009/04/clip-board-not-working-in-windows-xp.html

His GetOpenCliboardWindow told me that flashget.exe was the culprit. When I exited flashget, the problem went away.

Thanks, Sitaram!

Books

Nearly finished with Christopher Smith's "Bullied" and now I'll be helping put his other book "Fifth Avenue" back on Amazon's top 100.

He's got good reviews, folks!

http://www.weekinrewind.com/2011/04/giveaway-250-gift-card-at-amazon-us.html

Kindle

Charging History:

1. Dec. 18, 2010 - 2 days after receiving it with ~50% charge remaining. Of course, I had to tinker with it all the time, testing all features - Wifi, Text-to-speech, music player, internet browser.

2. Dec. 26, 2010 - One week in my hands and I've already loaded the Sambuhay missalettes for the Misa De Gallo masses, as well as some Sundays into January. Still playing around with it.

3. Jan. 31, 2011 - Yes, > 1 month, but of course, I would only turn Wifi on every morning at home/office, a few times at SM (to no avail - the login page won't allow me to log in. :( ). No music playing, no T-T-S. Only a few sessions at night.

4. Feb. 22, 2011 - around 5 hours charging time (started at 11pm, woke up before 6am and it was fully charged. Usage: almost daily Wi-fi just to download news, got to read a little bit of "My Horizontal Life" by Chelsea Handler, finally finished "Duma Key" by Stephen King. Started reading "What's Science Ever Done For Us?"

Kindle

I've finally given in. No, make that, I finally can afford it. Heh.

So last November 2010, I decided to ask permission from my wife, like I always do before purchasing gadgets, to buy myself a Kindle 3. And she'd lovingly replied, "Okay, happy birthday!" :D

See, ever since I read about the e-ink technology -- this was even before they've successfully made it commercial -- I've always wanted an e-book reader.

All the planets were in alignment -- a relative's son (let's call him "DH") was in the U.S. at the time, my wife gave her blessing, we had the budget, we had the means (internet access, credit card). All was a go.

So on the last few days of November, off to amazon.com I went, and lo and behold, the site mentioned that the Christmas shopping season was well on its way, and I'd have to wait at least two (2) weeks for the unit to be delivered (!!!). I told DH that he wouldn't have to bring me home a Kindle because his flight was scheduled for Dec. 14.

Good thing that after a few hours, Jing saw my sad status update on Facebook and pointed me to Amazon's Kindle 3 entry that said, "ONE DAY SHIPPING". HURRAY!!!

I hastily contacted DH and told him the good news (bad news for him, eh? :D ) and to make the long story short, by Dec. 16, 7:30pm I was holding my Kindle 3 in my hands. Aaaaahhhh... it was heaven!

Coming up: Feedback.

Trip log

11/22/2010: 7:37:50 AM - 8:04:34AM Home to Office thru Dolores Junction - Lazatin Blvd. - Capitol Blvd. - Consunji - Gen Hizon - V. Tiomico : 6.1KM, 2.2 sq.km., 1606 pts, 26:44, 14kph.

11/06/2010: 8:43:14 AM - 8:57:13 AM Home to EKG thru McArthur - B. Mendoza - HS Blvd - Limjoco - Tiomico - Consunji : 4.3km, 0.9 sq km, 13:59, 18 kph

11/06/2010: 10:18:57 AM - 10:49:04 AM Office to Home thru Limjoco - B. Mendoza - McArthur - JASA - McArthur : 5.2km, 0.4 sq.km., 1809 pts, 30:07, 10kph

Winmo apps I've tried on my Samsung Omnia Pro GT-B7610

Incompatible:

1. crazy kart racing
2. crayon physics
3. ferrari gt (I)
4. chris10230 middle lock button
5. EA Mobile NFS Shift v35.0...

Compatible:

1. Ferrari GT II v2.50
2. Opera mobile 10
3. Opera mini 4 (script + cookie issue with blogspot)
4. MSentinel
5. Palringo Premium 2.2
6. Sktools
7. Resco Explorer, Regedit, Taskman
8. Beiks Woman Calendar 6.2 (sadly, its database is not compatible with the Palm version :( )
9. Beiks Linguist Dictionary Bundle, Talking Dictionaries
10. Spb Backup
11. Rake in Grass Archibald's Adventures
12. Astraware Cubis, Zuma
13. Core Player
14. PushPush
15. Ganondolf Pangya Golf
16. Garmin Mobile XT
17. Glu Mobile Bugs Bunny, Deer Hunter 3D
18. ? BrakingHead
19. ? BrakingHead
20. ? Drago Memory
21. (to incompatible list #5)
22. EA Mobile The Simpsons Arcade v35.1.0
23. ? EA Mobile The Sims World Adventure
24. ? Gluga MiniGolf Wacky ...
25. GPS Sport Tracker (no map. how do i download a Philippine map?)
26. Gross Games Spinballs 1.2.1
27. Chess Genius
28. Deluxe Moon
29. RStein WifiProfiles
30. SPB Arkaball II,Backup,Balltracker,Quadronica,Quads?,Xonix II,Sudoku
31. WebIS Pocket Informant
32.

Samsung Omnia Pro B7610

It's been 5 days after I installed the Giorgio Armani ROM by daskalos. So far, so good. I've encountered 2 coma's which were obviously caused by locking the device while Opera was still cleaning up the RAM, but just a few minutes ago, it wouldn't wake up again (3rd coma), even though I did not use Opera at all today. It might be due to a game or two that I installed just several minutes before the discovery of the 3rd coma. Will observe the games further.

When I poked the reset button, it booted just fine to 7% battery charge (It's been around 2 full days plus 8 hours since it was last charged (technically, since it was first used the morning after a previous night's full charge (Saturday evening charge, Sunday morning 6am first use).

Samsung Omnia Pro B7610

I have acquired said phone last May 1, 2010, and after only a few days, I modified its PDA ROM.

Original ROM:

PDA: B7610NXXIL1 (IL1 = 2009/December rev. 1)

CSC: B7610NXTCIL3

PHONE: B7610XXIK1

WinMo 6.5 Professional

CE OS 5.2.21868 (Build 21868.5.0.69)

Windows Mobile 6.5

Processor: ARM1176 ...

MODIFIED ROM:

PDA: B7610NXXJC2 (JC2 = 2010/March rev. 2)

WinMo 6.5 Professional

CE OS 5.2.23568 (Build 23658.5.5.0)

(Windows Mobile 6.5.5)

Changes I loved:

• Quicker contact search -- upon entering Samsung Phonebook, I can type letters and it will start searching matching names. With 6.5, I need to press the SEARCH button first before typing.

Changes I hated:

• The Wi-Fi radio would occasionally NOT TURN ON, as if the transmitter got disconnected from the electronics :(
• Sometimes the unit will not wake up from LOCKED state, and I need to soft-reset it by poking the reset button on the side. I am convinced, after reading this link, that Opera is the culprit.

Last week, after I charged the phone while tethered via USB-cable to my laptop almost all day, I went to the mall, and I couldn't make the Wi-Fi activate! After soft-resetting it 9 times (!!!) I eventually got to make it activate.

Then I read yesterday from Modaco that one user was loving the Giorgio Armani ROM on his B7610 because the Wi-Fi wasn't dying anymore. He mentioned that he was having Wi-Fi issues in ALL JC2 ROMs, but I think the issue was with WinMo 6.5.5 (and possible 6.5.3), because the GA B7620 ROM was based on 6.5 JC2, and so far, so good, I've downgraded my PDA ROM with it. :)

But now I have to press the Search button when selecting contacts. :(

Oh, and the Opera comatose problem is still here. :(

Garmin Nuvi 255W Recalibration

Looks like Garmin committed a big boo-boo. In the owner's manual (http://www8.garmin.com/manuals/nuvi205_OwnersManual.pdf), the instructions to recalibrate are:

1. Turn off the nuvi.

2. Turn on the nuvi and hold the Power key to the left for about 30 seconds until the calibration screen appears (white screen with "Press dot").

I followed it, tried 4 or 5 times even though my fingers were already hurting from holding the power button to the left for 30 to 60 seconds each time. No dice.

I found another one from http://www.sharc.net/discus/messages/6/77.html?1236709210:

Nuvi 2xx Series: Slide the on/off power switch to the left and hold until you see the calibration screen.

Nuvi 7xx Series: Touch the screen anywhere and keep your finger there while moving the on/off switch to left (don't wait for Garmin logo to come up) and then quickly moving the switch the right (lock position). After a short while, you will reach the calibration screen. Go through the entire procedure of pressing each dot as it appears on the screen until it says "Done".

However, someone posted on this last page that the 7xx series instruction set that worked for his 255W, but he had to touch and hold at the upper left corner. I followed suit, and after more than 30 seconds, still nothing! But when I removed my finger from the screen, voila! The calibration screen appeared!

Here's the sequence of the dots that needed to be pressed as I remember:

• Lower Left
• Top Center
• Mid Right
• Top Right
• Lower Center
• Mid Left
  

So, to summarize:

1. Turn off the Nuvi 255W.
2. Touch and hold the upper left corner of the screen.
3. While holding your finger at the said screen corner, slide the power switch to the left to turn the unit on, and quickly lock the touchscreen by sliding the power switch to the right even before the GARMIN logo appears.
4. After a few seconds, release your finger from the screen.
5. Press the dots in sequence.

Finally, it rained!

And when it rains, it really pours!

More importantly, though, it's the last exam day of my 2 kids at EKG. :)

I wonder how I can make them better readers this vacation?

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Handbook 2010.

This was forwarded to the family egroup (my wife's side) by Tita Lu. I deem it worth sharing:

HANDBOOK 2010

Health:
1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
4. Live with the 3 E’s — Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy
5. Take time to pray and read your Bible daily.
6. Play more games.
7. Read more books than you did in 2009.
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
9. Sleep for 7 hours.
10. Take a 10- to 30-minute walk daily. And while you walk, smile.

Personality:
11. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don’t have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don’t over do it. Keep your limits.
14. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake.
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
18. Forget issues of the past. Don’t remind your partner with His/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don’t hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more.
24. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

Society:
25. Call your family often.
26. Each day give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything..
28. Spend time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6.
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:
32. Do the right thing!
33. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
34. GOD heals everything.
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
37. The best is yet to come..
38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.
39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

Last but not the least:
40. Please Forward this to everyone you care about, I just did.

Wow, it's been a year!

Since my last post, that is. Hmmm... looks like I stopped blogging here since Life kinda took a vacation when my father passed away two (2) days after my last post.

Today is the first-year anniversary of his death.

Remembering him, let me post this SMS message from our parish priest, Rev. Fr. Roger Yambao. He wrote:

"Merry Christmas. What gift shall we give Jesus tomorrow?" This was the text of tang Vic last year to me before Christmas. Iya pala idaun ne ing bie na kang Jesus. Great is this brother! A man of God and of the people. Remember him in his coming home today to our Creator.

Thanks, Among Roger.

php-mysql problem gives birth to Bill Viewer

3 days after discovering I broke our web server's php-mysql functionality by fixing it (groan), I finally finished my Bill Viewer program.

It allows the user to view all bills of any customer and quickly copy to the clipboard the VAT and UC details of an individual bill or a range of bills. There is an option to sort the details by month or by bill type.

Now I'm planning on including the ability to PREVIEW and PRINT any bill, but perhaps I'll do that in BCMS first (Ledger module).

Mouth Sores

A doctor friend of mine told me about a remedy for mouth sores ("singaw" or "lasu"):

benadryl syrup 30ml.
2x 500mg tetracycline capsule dissolve in 30ml water
daktarin or daktacort oral gel, 1/4 or 1/2 tspn, dissolve in 30ml water

Mix them all together, you get a 90ml solution.

Gargle it 30ml 3x a day (so 1 set will last only 1 day).

His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage

From http://tsikot.yehey.com/forums/showthread.php?t=29399

How can a couple prevent adultery? Dr. Willard Harley in his book His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage provides some answers. He has
found that marriages that fail to meet a spouse's needs are more vulnerable to an extramarital affair.
Often the failure of men and women to meet each other's needs is due to a lack of knowledge rather than a selfish unwillingness to be considerate.
Meeting these needs is critically important because in marriages that fail to meet needs, it is striking and alarming how consistently married people seek to
satisfy their unmet needs through an extramarital affair. If any of a spouse's five basic needs goes unmet, that spouse becomes vulnerable to the
temptation of an affair.

First, let's look at the five needs of a wife. The first need is for affection. To most women affection symbolizes security, protection, comfort, and
approval. When a husband shows his wife affection, he sends the following messages: (1) I'll take care of you and protect you; (2) I'm concerned about the problems you face, and I am with you; (3) I think you've done a good job, and I'm so proud of you.

Men need to understand how strongly women need these affirmations. For the typical wife, there can hardly be enough of them. A hug can communicate all of the affirmations of the previous paragraph. But, affection
can be shown in many ways such as: kisses, cards, flowers, dinners out, opening the car door, holding hands, walks after dinner, back rubs, phone
calls…there are a thousand ways to say "I love you." From a woman's point of view, affection is the essential cement of her relationship with a man.

The second need is conversation. Wives need their husbands to talk to them and to listen to them; they need lots of two-way conversation. In their dating
life prior to marriage, most couples spent time showing each other affection and talking. This shouldn't be dropped after the wedding. When two people get married, each partner has a right to expect the same loving care and attention that prevailed during courtship to continue after the wedding. The
man who takes time to talk to a woman will have an inside track to her heart.

The third need is honesty and openness. A wife needs to trust her husband totally. A sense of security is the common thread woven through all of a woman's five basic needs. If a husband does not keep up honest and open communication with his wife, he undermines her trust and eventually destroys her security. To feel secure, a wife must trust her husband to give her accurate information about his past, the present, and the future. If she can't trust the signals he sends, she has no foundation on which to build a solid
relationship. Instead of adjusting to him, she always feels off balance; instead of growing toward him, she grows away from him.

Financial commitment is a fourth need a wife experiences. She needs enough money to live comfortably: she needs financial support. No matter how successful a career a woman might have, she usually wants her husband to earn enough money to allow her to feel supported and to feel cared for.

The fifth need is family commitment. A wife needs her husband to be a good father and have a family commitment. The vast majority of women who get married have a powerful instinct to create a home and have children. Above all, wives want their husbands to take a leadership role in the family and to commit themselves to the moral and educational development of their children.

Preventing Adultery: His Needs
Now, let's look at the five needs husbands have. The first is sexual fulfillment . The typical wife doesn't understand her husband's deep need for sex anymore than the typical husband understands his wife's deep need for affection. But these two ingredients can work very closely together in a happy, fulfilled marriage. Sex can come naturally and often, if there is enough
affection.

The second need for a man is recreational companionship. He needs her to be his playmate. It is not uncommon for women, when they are single, to join
men in pursuing their interests. They find themselves hunting, fishing, playing football, and watching sports and movies they would never have chosen on
their own.

After marriage wives often try to interest their husbands in activities more to their own liking. If their attempts fail, they may encourage their husbands
to continue their recreational activities without them. But this option is very dangerous to a marriage, because men place surprising importance on having
their wives as recreational companions. Among the five basic male needs, spending recreational time with his wife is second only to sex for the typical husband.

A husband's third need is an attractive spouse. A man needs a wife who looks good to him. Dr. Harley states that in sexual relationships most men find it nearly impossible to appreciate a woman for her inner qualities alone--there must be more. A man's need for physical attractiveness in a mate is profound.

The fourth need for a man is domestic support. He needs peace and quiet. So deep is a husband's need for domestic support from his wife that he often
fantasizes about how she will greet him lovingly and pleasantly at the door, about well-behaved children who likewise act glad to see him and welcome him to the comfort of a well-maintained home.

The fantasy continues as his wife urges him to sit down and relax before taking part in a tasty dinner.Later the family goes out for an evening stroll, and he returns to put the children to bed with no hassle or fuss. Then he and his wife relax, talk together, and perhaps watch a little television until they
retire at a reasonable hour to love each other. Wives may chuckle at this scenario, but this vision is quite common in the fantasy lives of many men. The male need for his wife to "take care of things"--especially him--is widespread, persistent, and deep.

The fifth need is admiration. He needs her to be proud of him. Wives need to learn how to express the admiration they already feel for their husbands
instead of pressuring them to greater achievements. Honest admiration is a great motivator for men. When a woman tells a man she thinks he's wonderful, that inspires him to achieve more. He sees himself capable
of handling new responsibilities and perfecting skills far above those of his present level.

If any of a spouse's five basic needs go unmet, that person becomes vulnerable to the temptation of an affair. Therefore, the best way to prevent adultery is to meet the needs of your spouse.